Where have all the Heroes gone? -The Return-

This is a sequal to the post I put up many many moons ago.

Guys and girls... Yes, I finally know why people react to close girl-guy friends and tend to talk about it. That is not really the big issue here, but what really happens between the two individual, is something I am looking into.

Imagine 2 friends, both girls, they spend a lot of time together, talking, sharing about their lives and dreams. They got real close, and suddenly it was about time that one of them got into a relationship. Things begin to change, they do not spend as much time together, they do not talk about everything under the sun anymore. This seemed very natural and normal, yet it affects the other party who's not yet moved on as the friendship is somehow been replaced or taken over by a new person in your close friend's life. (Erm... does this sound very lesbian? NO!) Anyhow, these things happen but in the course of this change, there would be adjustments and people grow and move on. And it's much easier for these 2 girls to adapt.

But, when this situation is applied on a friendship of a guy and a girl, things get a little more complicated. Do be reminded (if you have not known already) that we're wired differently, thus sometimes we are unable to comprehend each other's need in the emotional side. Plus, things will have to change quite a bit in the friendship as things will get real complex if a girl were to have a boyfriend and to have a really close guy friend both at the same time. The girl may have to juggle to guard and protect the heart of both friend as both takes a different place in her heart. Jealousy is another matter that may come into picture. I don't know why this emotion even exist and I don't know what's the reason behind this, but I do know it exists.

I personally have learnt a great lesson in this area and I know as brother and sisters to each other, we'd need to guard the hearts of one another. We need to be keepers of our brothers/sisters.

Guys and girls can be close friends, but there should be a clear boundary of where things should be kept clear and as time goes by let not our actions stumble each other but edify them. Change and progress in the friendship will come, this is not escapable, but I believe if that friendship is built genuinely on a selfless foundation, there would be a lot of grace and edification involved.